Taking people for granted – we are all guilty of it. Whether it be loved ones, work colleagues, or even strangers, we are all guilty of taking people for granted in some way or another.
We go about our daily lives, in our own bubbles and own thoughts, thinking about work, school, what we are going to make for tea? There are so many things that race through our minds while we are going about our day. It is rare for us to stop and think about what we are doing or what is going on around us – I guess, as human beings, we are all selfish, even the most selfless of people have their moments – whether conscientiously or sub-conscientiously.
I am going to bring mindfulness into this and suggest that if we were all more mindful, if we sometimes came to a halt and took in the environment around us, and what we were doing, then maybe we would take people for granted less, and be more grateful for the people and things we have in our lives.
“Sometimes we spend more efforts with people that are strangers in terms of making an impression than the person that’s closest to us. And you just gotta remember not to take for granted that person that’s closest to you.” – Michael Douglas, (2014)
It is very common to ignore the beauty something holds when ignored and taking it for granted. When we see something every day, we tend to forget just how precious it is, we tend to forget that one day it may not be there anymore, because we become so used to having it around. We focus more on the things that make us feel anxious, stressed and exhausted, than the things that bring us joy, happiness and love – it only requires effort and taking a step back to realise what we have, and how lucky we are to have it.
Sometimes, even the strongest feelings expire when we ignore them and take them for granted, it is all about putting in the effort to make the ones we are closest to feel special and loved, every day. It is so easy to get caught up in daily life but we should all take the time to stop and think about how we treat the ones we love, how we make them feel and how we should be making them feel. Appreciate those who will go to the ends of the Earth for you and beyond, because no matter how much someone loves you, eventually they will get tired. Take the time and imagine your life without them, and how you would feel if they were no longer around. Remove yourself and take the time for those who grant you theirs.
I came across a quote on Pinterest that partially inspired this post: “Never go to sleep angry, because you never know if the person you’re mad at will wake up the next morning. Always forgive someone. You never know if you’ll speak to them again. Always forgive. You may not forget but it’s better than knowing you’ll never get to tell them you’re sorry, or that you still love them. It might be too late.” (I am unsure who wrote this but when I find out I will reference below.) It really hit home for me, and I assume it will for others too, because I believe in never going to bed on an argument, always kissing your loved ones goodnight and never allowing someone to go to sleep upset, you really don’t know if you will see them the next day. Life has so many twists and turns, we don’t know if we will see someone again and we don’t want to live wondering “what if” or wishing that you said sorry for the fight you had last night. Life is too short to hold grudges, life is too short to not forgive the ones you love and make amends before you go to bed – life is far too short to wonder “what if” and to not live in the moment.